Tuesday, March 19, 2013

A break....

I am finding it quite hard to keep up with this blogging project.  I enjoy it in a way but am finding that I get so far behind and so easily distracted from it....and I am not really sure anyone reads it anyway.
I think I may take a break from this blog and focus on my other blog and the writing of my book.  I  may change my mind on that and would really appreciate any feed back on this blog...on who reads it, on whether you find it helpful.  I may back my goal off and try to aim for once or twice a week...who knows.
I really welcome your feedback though... it will help me decide what to do.

Friday, March 1, 2013

Healthy Grieving: Step One

Grief is a natural, inevitable reaction to loss. You are not given a choice about having grief, but you can choose how you grieve.
I will be very interested to work through this multi-step grief activity and reflect on how I chose to grief.  I know I made many mistakes..and likely continue to.

Knowing the general process of healthy grieving will assist you on your grief journey. A basic understanding with practical application will enable you to work through the loss in a positive way.
The first step of healthy grieving is to acknowledge and understand your own grief. "The people who recover are the people who admit their loss and are able to talk about it," says Dr. H. Norman Wright.
Ok...think I did ok on this one, talking about my grief...it was all I did for a very, VERY  long time.  What I don't think I did well was to admit what my loss was... as I did in one of my last posts.  I lost my son but I lost so much more too. 

Understand this step and apply it. Look into your heart and explore your responses to grief so far.
"The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart" (1 Samuel 16:7).
Deuteronomy 4 : 29-31a
29 But if from there you seek the Lord your God, you will find him if you seek him with all your heart and with all your soul. 30 When you are in distress and all these things have happened to you, then in later days you will return to the Lord your God and obey him. 31 For the Lord your God is a merciful God; he will not abandon or destroy you
I feel very blessed to have been able to share, not only my grief, but also my son, with others.  I encourage everyone to talk about their loss and their grief.

Lord, help us when are grieving to grieve in our way and our time, but with Your wisdom. Amen.